When Your Dad Asked You, “Dah ada makwe?”

Oh My~

Loosing One

Lepaskan. After all, this is what is going to happen.

Mulut cakap lain, hati cakap lain. Tak “congruent”. That is what the majority of counselling students would say. For me, the way that brings out are the one that should be prevail than what is the inside. Isn’t that the judgement is based on what is showed, something that we can prove by the way it happen, rather than looking at what is the inside. Kau benci perasaan ni tapi kau tak mampu nak cakap what you’re really feel dekat dalam. This is not going to settle this problem. The action you do is what orang pandang.

For example, someone is prosecuted for murder, and will be punish according to law for the crime he act. They don’t really see the fact that the criminal was doing so (murder) because the victim had once rapped his girlfriend. The fact is that, the act he done is he killed a person. And the judgement will be based on that.

It can’t be mean that when you care on someone, you need to show your concern to them. Let’s stop doing such thing if it gives you that unpleasant feeling. Ignore them. Look further and never turn back. Sometimes, you need to let them off and forget everything bad they’ve done to you. Sampai bila nak sakit hati? Pedih.

“Why we can’t be as…” NO. Stop it. Stop looking at it, stop considering the kindness. For how many times you want to suffer because of this? Stop. Just stop.

Time can heal this pain. This is true. Banyakkan berlapang dada. Pray, and pray, and pray. Stop looking at the reason why you should get back. There are a lot of ways you can do to cure this pain and get out of this suffer. Google je.

Penat lah. Penat.

Firdaus Azman. 8.25 AM, 18/2/2016

Nasihat Ibn. Abbas Tentang …

Sahabat, Abdullah bin Abbas Radhiyallohu ‘anhuma berkata :

“Wahai orang yang berbuat dosa, janganlah engkau merasa aman dari dosa-dosamu. Ketahuilah bahwa akibat dari dosa yang engkau lakukan, adalah jauh lebih besar dari dosa dan maksiat itu sendiri”.

“Ketahuilah bahwa hilangnya rasa malu kepada malaikat yang menjaga di kiri kananmu saat engkau melakukan dosa dan maksiat, adalah jauh lebih besar dosanya dari dosa dan maksiat itu”.

“Sesungguhnya ketika engkau tertawa saat melakukan maksiat sedangkan engkau tidak tahu apa yang akan Allah lakukan atas kamu, adalah jauh lebih besar dosanya dari dosa dan maksiat itu”.

“Kegembiraanmu saat engkau melakukan maksiat yang menurutmu menguntungkanmu, adalah jauh lebih besar dosanya dari dosa dan maksiat itu”.

“Dan kesedihanmu saat engkau tidak bisa melakukan dosa dan maksiat yang biasanya engkau lakukan, adalah jauh lebih besar dosanya dosanya dari dosa dan maksiat itu”.

“Ketahuilah bahawa perasaan takut aib dan maksiatmu akan diketahui orang lain, sedangkan engkau tidak pernah merasa takut dengan Pandangan dan Pengawasan Allah, adalah jauh lebih besar dosanya dari aib dan maksiat itu”.

“Tahukah engkau apa dosa Nabi Ayyub sehingga Allah mengujinya dengan sakit kulit yang sangat menjijikkan selama bertahun-tahun, ditinggalkan keluarganya dan habis harta bendanya ? Ujian Allah itu hanya disebabkan kerana seorang miskin yang dizalimi datang meminta bantuan kepadanya, tetapi Nabi Ayyub tidak membantunya”.

(Suwar min Hayatis Sahaabah jilid 3 hal 60 – 61)

http://www.arrahmah.com/kajian-islam/balasan-maksiat-datang-secepat-kilat.html

Firdaus Azman. 11.21 PM, 17/2/2016

It Doesn’t Kill You

I believe that it has been written by God, from the early beginning. Redha. I know that it is hard to do but worth to live with.

Do you ever feel disappointed by yourself? Sure it comes from the surrounding that makes you, eventually blame yourself. And it is later becomes a disappointment on you yourself.

We never know what is going to happen, and we never can stop something which has been fated on us. I’m sure that this is the rule of the universe. Maktub. This is what Paulo Coelho has stated in his book, The Alchemist. Yes, for me this is true that our life destiny is already written before we even born. But this does not mean that you don’t need to struggle to achieve something.

In some cases, we can control and change our destiny. This is what most people called it as, “You create you own destiny”, which means that as long as this life journey is not out of your control, just do your best!

But sometimes things which are beyond your control, you cannot avoid lah macam it has been written when you are going to die, whether you will have kids or not, either you will be born in America or Malaysia or even in Palestine, and so on. These things for sure we cannot control

Ok penat. So I want to wrap it up as:

No. 1. You can do whatever you wanna do. Try your best to achieve what you want. 70% is for sure you will success.

No. 2.Somehow things might not going so well. Everyone does being careless and make mistakes, and sometimes the mistakes give such a huge bad impact to our life.

No. 3. Not all things are under our control. There are some things which we cannot prevent it to happen. For instance, place where we were born, people we’re going to meet, who’s our parent etc.

All in all, this is the bitter reality that everyone should accept. As mentioned earlier, be redha, accept it and continue the life in the way that has been decided to you. Orang kata, hadapinya dengan senyuman 🙂 .

وَإِذ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُم لَئِن شَكَرتُم لَأَزيدَنَّكُم ۖ وَلَئِن كَفَرتُم إِنَّ عَذابي لَشَديدٌ

“And when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely enhance you [in blessing], but if you are ungrateful, My punishment is indeed severe. / Jika kamu bersyukur atas nikmatku maka akan Ku tambahkan nikmatmu, namun jika kamu ingkar, sesungguhnya azabku amat pedih”. (Ibrahim 14:7)

Firdaus Azman. 10.56 PM, 17/2/2015

A Brother

You are, to the people out there,

Like a serious person, who is not be able to get along. Hahha.

But when they’re getting close with you, I’m sure it is different,

Because we all know, you are,

A naughty person that loves to make jokes with everyone,

A good friend that can be asked to hang out with,

A great leader who can command us on programmes,

A strong man who can stand holding lots of responsibilities.

A good person who is always being nice to everyone.

 

And,

You are, for me, more than all that.

Inasmuch as, you are,

A person I used to spend time the most with,

A person who is very polite to everyone,

A little guy who’s a pleasant his elders,

A really close friend who is able to bear with naughty spoof,

A friend to laugh and cry in few real moments,

A true friend who stays, even after he knows who I really am.

 

You’re, for me, 진짜,

Is a little brother that I don’t want to lay off,

Because we don’t know how time can change it,

Slowly it may change us,

From a best friend, to a complete stranger.

 

You and I,

I believe that one day it may comes,

That the time you’ll be awkwardly to say hallo to me.

If it really happens,

I’m not gonna let you know that I am surely will cry inside,

But,…

Do not worry much,

Because every second that I spent with you,

Will never be disappeared by time.

It will never be.

I promise.

 

If you read this, I want to say this to you,

“Thank you for forgiving me, and stay,

Even though I tried to push you away.”

I miss you, friend…

-Firdaus Azman. 9.46, 16/2/2016

 

 

Valentine’s Day

It has been debated in every years when it comes to 14 February, of its permissibility to be celebrated by Muslims.

People would say that, “Man, Valentine’s Day is HARAMMMMM. You can’t even wish them as it looks like you’re into this celebration”. Really?

I’ve my own personal opinion regarding this issue. I come out with a question, “I do not celebrate Valentine’s Day, but it is wrong to wish my friends (who’s not a Muslim)?”

Dari Ibn Umar beliau berkata, “Rasulullah shallallaahu alaihi wa sallam bersabda,

مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ

Barangsiapa menyerupai suatu kaum maka ia termasuk bagian dari mereka” (HR Abu Daud).

And…other lots of hadith regarding this issue…

As I see it in different way, there is other part which involved in Siyasah Syar’iyyah where people actually could wish them as long as the real meaning of doing so is just, To greet them, Tightens up the relationship between our multi-culture and multi-religion friends, as well as being a good example of meraikan those people as long as you are not redha or agreed with the real meaning of the celebration. There are a lot of Fatwas have been discussing from Islamic jurists around the world about this thing. Go and have a look in a wider circulation of ilmu.

Life is not about us. We’re not living with/among Muslims people only. If you’re saying that wishing the “Purity of Love” for non-Muslim is HARAMMM, does it as bad as you who’re in a sexual relationship of love between a man and woman out of marriage, that you’re actually celebrating the Valentine’s Day more than them EVERYDAY.

Firdaus Azman, 4.34 PM, 14/2/2016

Saudara

“God, what are you trying to show me? I’m feeling very bad, seriously!”

This was what I’ve keep repeating hundred of times while listening to khutbah Jumaat tadi. Tajuk khutbah “Bila hati telah bertaut, pastikan syurga milikmu”. Tanpa sedar, it’s watering the eyes and the heart.

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Thank you Allah for giving me the opportunity to stay alive.

Firdaus Azman. 5.02, 12/2/2016

What?

I don’t really know what should I write this time. It is such a random post as well, since I’ve closed my twitter account for the purpose of “life”. As saying goes that life is a precious thing you have to appreciate.

Talking about signing out social media, why this is so urge to me? Why it makes me think that I’m appreciating my life by doing so? Well, I don’t know either.

As I could describe myself to know that I’m quite so into a healthy lifestyle, even it is not really work, my healthy journey, and approach to health. lol. And being healthy is not only about the dietary and consumption of food, the exercises, etc etc… BUT it is more on the lifestyle itself INCLUDING how do you manage your emotional abuse so it won’t going to affect others.

Haha I don’t know how to explain it. If you read this, go find by yourself.

So…. I’m starting to babbling around. I just.. I just don’t know what should I say. It should be randomly posted in twitter yeah, but since I’ve stop using it, this is where I will put everything off.

Lastly, whatever you are now, let’s make your life be in around of what God allows you to do. If only you believe to the existence of God. If you don’t, just do whatever you want. Always remember that people do not see what you are doing, but Allah and His kingdom are watching you.

Long Time No See

It has been a long, very long time I haven’t posted any story/opinion/discussion in this blog. This is just a random post to talk about how I do feel right now.

It was such a dramatic, and a lunatic experience of got into fight with your best mate. Terrible. Horrible. That is how I described it through out the moment of, we called it “perang-dingin”.

I don’t wanna touch how it went worse because of my uncontrollable emotional towards a friend. Sure, it is not the issue that should you looked back. My point is that, both were doing things wrong because we’re talk about each other instead of to each other.

Let’s look to the real thing. Allah once said in the Quran;

إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ

“Sesungguhnya hanya kaum muslimin yang bersaudara. Kerana itu, berusahalah memperbaiki hubungan antara kedua saudara kalian..” (QS. Al-Hujurat: 10).

Sentap, isn’t it? While in an emotional phrase, to be honest, I’ve never ever thing about this. All that appeared in my mind were just horrible things that friend did which never stop blowing the mind . Lebih mengejutkan, even on things you’ve already forgive and forget comes, as oil that burns out everything.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ قَدْ أَيِسَ أَنْ يَعْبُدَهُ الْمُصَلُّونَ فِي جَزِيرَةِ الْعَرَبِ، وَلَكِنْ فِي التَّحْرِيشِ بَيْنَهُمْ

Syaitan telah berputus asa untuk disembah oleh orang yang rajin solat di Jazirah Arab. Namun ia selalu berusaha untuk memicu permusuhan dan kebencian.” (HR. Muslim 2812 dan Ibn Hibban 5941).

لَا يَحِلُّ لِمُسْلِمٍ أَنْ يَهْجُرَ أَخَاهُ فَوْقَ ثَلَاثِ لَيَالٍ

“Tidak halal bagi seorang muslim untuk tidak menyapa saudaranya lebih dari 3 hari.” (HR. Bukhari 6237 dan Muslim 2560).

*Menangis*

-Firdaus Azman. 3:05 PM, 11/2/2016

Harm

“Vampires will never hurt you”

“Do you’ve a friend that you’re struggle to find things, and put so much effort to talk about. All he can give is the ignorance on you.”

“Empathy in young people has been decreasing since the 1980s and took a huge decline in the 2000s”

“Kalau ya pun kau tak suka, sekurang-kurangnya kau hargai hasil kerja orang lain. Sakit weh bila kita bersungguh-sungguh buat, orang hina.”

“Reminiscing about the past, you dont need to do that.”

“Life is weird. You can go from being strangers, to being friends, to being more than friends, to being practically strangers again.”

“I can’t imagine how my life would be if I love you.”

“How it feels bila kawan sendiri tipu kita. Sakit.”

“The ignorance. Ok”

“Sometimes u gave up on someone, not bcs u dont care. Its bcs they dont.”

“Bersabarlah dgn apa yg kau tak suka.”

“The fear of disappointment causes you to push people away, keeping them from getting to close.”

“Hair gets lighter, skin gets darker. Because someone hurts you.”

“Introverts tend to be very loyal and honest people.”

“Stop doing the right things to the wrong person.”

“How “Thank you” is so important to me.”

“Life grows but the pain stays forever.”